sa narodi clovek-akoby si spravil pevny prívetivy dom,
si bol dvere otvoril,
trochu rozpacity: nech sa paci,
a cit sa tu doma.
person is born-it is like if he was making
he was opening the doors,
bit embarrassed: you are welcome,
and feel at home.
On those lines I would
like to tell you the story about one lonely child, who has found her real
Let's go and start from
the very beginning. I studied at a Secondary economical school in Banská
Bystrica. Following graduation I worked as a secretary for one year. I
wanted to improve my English so I decided to go to England and work as a
nanny. I stayed in England for a year and lived in Hatch End, north part
of London, working for an East Indian family that had three girls one
three year old, and 2 years old twins. It was a very hard work and I felt
that children of this family were very spoiled. Their mom was at home all
the time, however she wasn't interested in her kids.
Before my departure to
England I needed some experience with children and during the weekends I
was working in the baby orphanage in Bojnice. Children from birth to age
of four are being cared for by the state in this institution. I was
working with the two year olds, mostly girls. Because I have only one
brother (20), I became very close with the girls. We were playing games in
the garden, went for walks, I read them stories, etc.
Gradually, I got
very close to one blue eyed girl. Her name was Adriana. I was always
looking forward to seeing her. I you asked me why did I liked her so much,
I couldn’t answer, I really don’t know. She was so sweet and her eyes
were so beautiful and full of hope. In September 1993, I suggested to my
parents to have Adka spent the Christmas with our family. First they
said no, but I tried and tried again and finally, one month later to my
surprise, they agreed. She spent three weeks at our house during Christmas
holidays. She was three at the time. After that we used to take her to our
home every weekend, holidays, etc.
At the beginning she was
very afraid of men, even of my dad and my brother. Later on she started to
like them both very much. Her speech was very poor too as she had problems
with pronunciation of some sounds.
Each Monday we took
her back to the institution. She always cried, as she wanted to stay with
us. This was very difficult for everybody. After some time she started to
call my parents mom and dad. We started to talk about a possibility of
adopting her. Big decision stood in front of us: adopt her or not? We
decided to become her legal guardians for the time being. My parents were
invited to the court together wit Adkas mother. She came but didn’t
show any interest in her daughter. So now I have a little sister already
for four years. I am absolutely sure that Adka is very happy with us.
Se became darling of the whole family and our friends. Everybody loves
her. Recently we were able to change her last name to ours, as that was
her wish. From this September she will be attending the primary school.
And what else can I say
about her? In June she will be seven. She is very bright, has a beautiful
voice, sings and dances very nice and What's most important, she is very
happy with us.
Adka is 10 now and these pictures are
from May 2000
GO TO PEOPLE STORIES
Published in the
Slovak Heritage Live newsletter Volume 5, No. 2, Fall 1997
Copyright © Vladimir Linder 1997
Street, Burnaby, British Columbia, Canada V5C 1P6
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